We Are All Sandpaper to Someone

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     Sandpaper: coarse and abrasive, causing irritation- quite an unpleasant substance to encounter. I am sure every one can bring to mind a person or personality that tends to meet the 'sandpaper' description; a person we cringe at the notion of. This often starts a cycle of irritation that spreads to our other working relationships, our social realm, and then into our homes. In a moment of utter desperation I cried till I couldn't cry anymore. Therein I came to a very big realization... we are all sandpaper to someone.
      Every personality has a complementing personality, as well as an opposing personality. There are some we are indifferent to, some we really blend with and others that just plain cause us to consider violence. I have encountered many different personalities over the years- and let me tell you, some are down right hard for me to work with. I have really had to dig deep and work at making it through a day. On a long ride home during a deep conversation with the Lord several things hit me.

      1. Realization. I realized that while a certain person may be driving me to the point of insanity, there is also, most likely, someone I am driving to the point of insanity as well. It might even be the same person I am fretting about.
      2. Understanding. When the truth hits, and it hits hard, I come to a new understanding of how it feels to be the other person. Being the sandpaper is no better- in fact, it hurts to realize it.
      3. New perspective. It's time to look through another's eyes at myself and at what is really the issue, both with the irritation I am feeling, and the irritation I may be causing. That shakes the soul a little, let me tell you.
      4. Consider. Weighing the long run to see how to proceed- on both sides of the issues. Is this a person I can avoid, or someone I will encounter every day? Whether I am the irritant or the one irritated, is avoiding an option.. or limiting encounters. Sometimes you just have to go to the other person and spit it out. Admit it, own it, and make it right as much as you can from here.

      This past week found me irritated and very frustrated trying to find the place and the pace with summer schedules, volunteers, co-workers and such. There were abrasive personalities that were irritating me, and I was a rather nasty irritant myself. Sometimes there are circumstances causing the issues that are temporary, but sometimes there are issues that are going to take some work on both sides. I have both to work through, not only last week, but off and on throughout the day everyday- it's just a reality.
        My point is not to rant or rag on anyone. It is to say, I need to be mindful of my own shortcomings.. admit them, own up to them, and make it better as much as is in my power to do so (there are times when you just can't make it right). Like me, please take time to consider the conflicts and irritations surrounding you; pray, ponder, and plan in order to better the situation around you and those you love!

 

On Hospitality

     Ladies in red lipstick gathered for afternoon card games sharing cups of nuts and mints; young wives considering a purchase as demonstrations are done in kitchens with gadgets and goodies. A table set in cloth napkins, matching table service- all to serve a multi-course meal carefully planned and beautifully presented. I never considered these events to be moments of hospitality. Such hosting often found me at a loss, unable to see myself making this a regular event in my home life.

     My personal inadequacies in this area, real or imagined, have proven a challenge over the years. Holidays, birthdays, or my husband's own desire to just have a few people over tend so send me into a discontented frenzy of doubt, dread, and to-do. We don't live like most people, nor did we have entertainment in mind when we purchased our home.. but then, there is where the point lies. Is it hospitality or is it entertainment?

     The notion in my head that has plagued me so many years is a notion of entertainment, not hospitality. Let me share this by Nancy Twigg:

I'll never forget what she said. It was so simple, yet so true: "When you entertain, you bring honor and glory to yourself. Showing hospitality brings honor and glory to God."
Think about it. Pride can easily sneak in when you entertain. The dinner you serve shows off your cooking abilities. Everything is clean and neat so guests are impressed with your home and homemaking skills. And, if the evening is enjoyable, everyone assumes it's because of your talents as a host or hostess. Why, all this focus on yourself can quickly lead to an inflated ego if you're not careful!
Hospitality, on the other hand, is not about impressing anyone. It's about being yourself and making your guests feel comfortable to be themselves. It doesn't matter if you serve frozen pizza or if dust bunnies are scurrying across your floors. Through your warmth and humility, guests feel better about themselves and closer to God for having visited your home.

       This makes complete sense to me. The discontent and lack of ability I was struggling with was due to the idea of entertaining; something completely contrary to my character and to the environment of my home. From this realization came a new outlook on hospitality and a healthy peace with it.

       In my home, hospitality means welcoming, comforting, encouraging and accepting another in in order that they feel the warmth and security our home is built upon. It is not necessarily a gathering, though it can be.. it is not necessarily a celebration, though it can be. It doesn't even have to be in my home. Hospitality can be what we bring to others, stemming from our home and reaching out to theirs.

       While a slight panic still rises when the thought of company crosses my mind, it doesn't linger long. My home is a place of welcome.. as it is, without pretense. No one is turned away or left in want, but invited to stay- linger a while in the simple things. When I leave, I take a piece of home with me to share with those who cross my path- or those whose path I seek out. Hospitality isn't flashy or labor-intense. It is the heart of a home shared and ready to accept.       
 

Very Veggie Conversations with Go Lady

 

 

     Fresh vegetable tasting- an interesting and often challenging aspect of my program. Children and adults alike have rather strong opinions regarding their relationships with vegetables. Naturally, the great reveal of any given veggie often meets with the standard 'ewe', 'yuck', and other various noises used to get the point across. So how do we manage to get the veggies considered and tasted?

 

 

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How I Beat Lunch Meat

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     Ok. No judgment. I do not eat lunch meat (except on some rare occasion where it a hospitality situation and it is seriously rude not to). Extremely high sodium, gnarly preservatives, and the whole grossly processed issue present major migraine triggers for me, and I really dislike migraines.
      I appreciate the huge convenience lunch meats are and realize they may appear rather cost effective, but they are not healthy and they are definitely not for me. Over they years, the solution to the lunch meat problem has become second nature- a little planning goes a long way. The first step is to decide it isn't an option, then we take the next step. Most meats translate well to convenience foods once you start to look at them that way- and left over meats are a serious help.
   
      1. Roast. Pick a day and set a roast in the crock pot. Tender meat cooked low and slow is easily shredded for salads and wraps. Cold roast is perfect for slicing sandwich filling from. A roast will last several days and freeze beautifully (another great help in a hurry).

      2. Chicken. Whole, halved, thighs, breasts or tenders- once cooked are great lunch meat replacements. If you are really in a crunch, pick up a rotisserie chicken from the market. Again, the meat will freeze well after cooking to keep emergency backups on hand.

      3. Eggs. Boiled, scrambled, fried or in an omelet- eggs are versatile and quick to fix.

      4. Beans. Spicy black beans in a tortilla are a go-to quick lunch. Beans are great in salads, tortillas, soups or straight up.

      5. Meatless. It never hurts to go meatless for a meal; spinach and cheese quesadillas, grilled cheese, salad or a sandwich with nut butter. It works.

       The reality is: we don't have to have lunch meat to ditch the drive thru. A little planning and consideration keep us stocked up and ready for weekday lunches, and when we are caught unprepared there is always a rotisserie chicken at the store.

        Have you beat lunch meat? Share yours!



 

Better Beginnings: Breakfast on the Go

 



   The morning rush: it's maddening! I have to admit that my mornings take off at quite a pace leaving little time for cooking and cleaning up breakfast. Instead of hitting the drive through on my way to the office/classroom/whatever-it-is-today, we have a few simple 'go-to' breakfasts that get us through.

    Let me start by saying: a little planning goes a long way. Once you commit to eating at home, and act on that commitment, it gets easier and easier to make it happen. As I share my 'go-to' breakfasts, we will also look at the plan ahead steps that make it fast on the run.

     1. Yogurt & Fruit. The easiest way to is buy the yogurt with the fruit in it, which I tend to do if I have to, but it's not my favorite. My fave is to cut fresh fruit the night before, place it into a container ready and waiting for a dollop of plain yogurt (sometimes a hit of granola or chopped almonds). This is way fewer calories and much less sugar.

      2. Toast & Banana. Here is really no pre-prep for this other than set the nut butter of choice and banana on the counter right next to the coffee pot (which is ready and waiting for me to just hit the button!). This is my 'on the run in the car' meal.

       3. Egg Scramble. Eggs are beaten into a container (canning jar or plastic with lid) and kept in the fridge until morning. Left over veggies, cheese, or some chopped greens are on hand ready to be added, if needed. It always surprises me how quick this really is. Add a toasted English muffin if you are craving a drive thru flavor.

        4. Smoothie. You can't get more car friendly than a smoothie. I set all my ingredients in the blender pitcher- in the fridge- the night before. Pop it on the base, give it a whir.. ta da.. smoothie. My smoothies are basically a handful of each: baby greens (spinach, kale, chard, or a mix), fruit (berries and banana are my fave- I like mine frozen), fluid (coconut water or milk, plain yogurt, or green tea).. sometimes I add some flax, chia, or oats (a spoonful).

        5. Boiled egg and apple.  A few boiled eggs in the fridge are a staple; never leave the fridge without. They are also perfect for a lunch, workout, or snack.

        Sure, I love the mornings when we whip up pancakes or stir up biscuits.. but those are here and there, not the norm. That doesn't mean we skip breaking our fast and fueling our body for the day. Instead, we keep it simple, keep it natural, and keep it whole so when the slow and steady pancake morning presents itself, we can appreciate it and enjoy it (and not cry over a few extra calories!).
         Share your favorite quick breakfasts!